I don’t care

 

I often see and hear people talking about how they don’t care if others are bullshitting about them. If they really don’t care? Why bother talking about it? Just let it be.

I will call the people who are talking bad - X

The thing that X expects you to do when they say something bad are:-

1. For you to do the same to them – Which you don’t really want to do because it will make you low just like them.

2. Denying it in every possible way – Which to some people it may be the truth since that you are trying your best to say that it’s not true and without proof, there’s nothing much you can do.

3. Say that you don’t care – Of course you will say that! Just to hurt X but in the end it will get back to you because they get to bitch about you and you don’t. It will be very frustrating when that happens.

 

So, how exactly are we suppose to get even with this kind of people? There are some ways to do it. My personal favourite is to keep myself low and not to reveal so much about my life. After all, I am the one living my life.

This is some ways to get rid of X for good. Remember, before you do anything at all, be very sure of the gossip and is it really about you.

1. Confront X in a very friendly manner and act as if you don’t know that X is the one who talks bad about you and ask them, “Hey, I heard some rumours going on about me being ………, I wonder who started it? Do you think I am that kind of person?” Then, wait for their reaction. The look on their face is enough to make you satisfied.

2. Walk up to X with a smile on you face and give X a big thank you. If they ask you for what, just answer, for making me realize that you are not a good friend, for making me realize what other people think about me, for making me realize that things can come from absolutely no where. There are a lot of things to answer X depending on how you feel.

3. IGNORE. Just pay no attention to these people. By doing just that, you already win. Just leave all the people who are trying to bring you down and move ahead.

“ An expert is someone who has succeeded in making decisions and judgements simpler  through knowing what to pay attention to and what to ignore.”

These are all the things that I would do if ever there’s some people who talks bad about me. Although that rarely happen (as far as I’m concern)

Till next time.

Japan's Recent Disaster

As what we all know, Japan had been hit by an earthquake, bigger than any of the earthquakes before (8.9/9.0 magnitude) on 11th March, 2011. The earthquake created tsunami waves of up to 10 meters (33 ft) that struck Japan, with smaller waves in many other countries. As a result of this, many other damage is done to the country. The roads and the buildings, people are left without electricity and water. To add up to their misery, two nuclear power plant in Fukushima.


It's certainly is one disaster after another, while many had been rescued, thousands are dead and  there are still about 10,000 people missing or couldn't be contacted. Sad and shocking. Although other countries experienced smaller waves, there are not much damage done. 


The point that I am trying to make here is, a lot of people is talking about the disaster and I couldn't help but listen and try not to make judgment. There are 2 sides of course, one is the one who said that they deserved it, another is the one who said that we all should pray for them. To me, I am on both sides, some of the people in Japan may deserve it but the rest of them don't.


The people who keep on talking about how terrible it is and how awful they must feel, it's the one that I actually look down on, not the ones who condemned them. I am saying this because just by offering sympathy and condolences from word of mouth and other media alternative doesn't make a difference to them. They are still in a very vulnerable condition. What they need is not sympathy, they need help and I think there must be something that we can do to help. 


Participate in fund raising, be a volunteer, donate, anything as long as there are some things done to help them ease their burden. The loss they incurred are estimated to more than USD100 billion and it will take years to rebuild the country.

Here's a link I found on Google that we can use to donate online. Remember, every penny counts.

DONATE

God Bless Everyone.

Life plans

This year, I am going to turn 23 and yet I am still clueless. What is it that we're suppose to do in this life? I read about people who got married at this age, in fact, my mom was pregnant with me when she's just 21 (I think). I'm not sure if I'm ready to settle down. I wanted to have kids but I don't think I am ready for that kind of responsibility. I just want to still be young and active when my kid is at my age now. 

I don't think that I am even ready to take care of my own life. Maybe it's because of convenience? Maybe I should try and live on my own, support myself in order to grow up. I should stop depending on other people and just try and figure things out myself for a change. 

What is the first step to do? I guess I gave to make this decision myself too because even if someone tells me what to do, in the end, it's my choice to make, it's the road that I take is the thing that will count. 

Sometimes, I just wonder about all the successful people, how on earth did they get there? Maybe it's all about the connections, who you know and who they know. I got my first real job through some connection, got into my practical attachment job with the help of my boss here, so maybe it's easier.

There are people who are lucky enough to have someone who can at least guide them through their life until they are ready to take on it themselves, as for me, I need to draw my own map and I suck at it.